Top 5 Ways to Be More Peaceful in the New Year

Editor’s Note: Each weekday of Christmas, the Raven is delivering a favorite holiday article. 

On the tenth day of Christmas, the Raven gave to me… 5 Ways to Peace (Originally Published as “Top 5 Ways to Be More Peaceful in 2015,” December 31, 2014), A Prayer for the New Year, 2 Days of Nothing, 5 Ways to be Scandal-Free, Sub-ver-sive Peace!, Grinchy Redemption, A Civil War Christmas Carol, The Real War on Christmas, and A Santa Claus Monstrosity!

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At my age, I discovered years ago that New Year’s resolutions are a practice in failure. By January 15, I haven’t lost any weight, I keep swearing, I’ve stopped flossing my teeth, and I haven’t learned any new recipes…but I can still make a pretty mean batch of Top Ramen.

Here’s another resolution I’m going to fail – be more peaceful. That resolution lasted until about 12:15 am on January 1st. But if you’re like me, you know that the biggest problem facing our world is violence in every form – physical, spiritual, economic, emotional, and ecological violence are killing us and the planet. It’s as if humanity is addicted to violence, which means that if there’s one resolution worth keeping, it’s to become more peaceful.

So here are my top 5 ways to have a more peaceful year:

5. Admit that you are a violent person.

Are you offended yet? Well don’t worry. The first step in overcoming any addiction is to honestly admit that you have one. So, if you find yourself protesting, “What a jerk! I’m not violent! I’m a peaceful person!” you know you have a violent streak. And here’s the thing: that’s okay. We all have a violent streak. As someone who promotes nonviolence, I can be provoked to violence pretty easily. I often feel like the theologian and ethicist Stanley Hauerwas when he said, “I say I’m a pacifist because I am a violent son of a bitch…But by avowing it, I create expectations within others that hopefully will help me live faithfully to what is true. But that I have no confidence in my own ability to live it at all.”

4. Be aware of the scapegoat mechanism

The scapegoat mechanism is the reason I have no confidence in my own ability to be faithful to peace. As explained by René Girard, the violent scapegoat mechanism is everywhere in human culture. Scapegoating is blaming someone else for our problems. When two people experience tensions in their relationship they unite against a scapegoat. Scapegoating another makes them feel like their relationship is tighter. They create a bond by teaming up against their scapegoat. And once they have dealt with their common enemy, they feel a sense of peace. But that peace is only temporary because blaming someone else for our problems never actually solves our problem.

The scapegoat mechanism runs every aspect of our lives. Its violence permeates our families, neighborhoods, workplace, religious institutions, economics, and politics. So, if you are serious about becoming a more peaceful person, become aware of the scapegoat mechanism. Notice it and name it. And then stop participating in it.

3. Know the relationship between war and peace and justice

Did you ever read War and Peace? Me neither. I hear it’s great … But I can tell you that war never leads to lasting peace. Oh, sure. War gives us a temporary sense of peace. Attempting to kill our enemies makes us feel like we are making the world a safer place. But if there’s anything we should learn from the “War on Terror,” it’s that war only creates more enemies. But our “enemies” aren’t the real problem. As Paul wrote 2,000 years ago, “Our struggle is not against enemies of the flesh and blood, but against…the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil.”

The way to lasting peace isn’t to kill flesh and blood; it’s to struggle against “the spiritual forces of evil.” And the only way to struggle against those forces is to work for justice. Peace is only achieved through justice. Not a justice based on retaliation, but a justice that seeks to heal. The Hebrew prophets and Jesus committed themselves to meeting everyone’s basic needs. The prophets claimed that the nation would fall if they didn’t care for the weak, vulnerable, and marginalized. Jesus gave free food to crowds of poor people. He even provided free health care to people! The way of justice modeled by the prophets and by Jesus is a justice that heals and leads to peace.

2. Blessed are the peacemakers and forgivers

Jesus said that peacemakers are blessed. He had a specific way of making peace and it had nothing to do with scapegoating or killing people. He knew that killing people would only strengthen the scapegoating process and never deal with the actual problem, which is violence. But here’s the obvious problem: Jesus was killed. And his death wasn’t very peaceful. Yet, Jesus was right. Peacemakers are blessed because they unmask the violent powers of evil. They reveal that violence and scapegoating only leads to more violence and scapegoating.

As René Girard states in his book Violence and the Sacred, “Evil and the violent measures to combat evil are essentially the same.” But the powers don’t like to be exposed. People who are blinded and seduced by those powers don’t respond kindly to peacemakers. Know that by following Jesus and becoming a peacemaking God will bless you, but others may curse you. As you expose the violence of the scapegoating mechanism, family and friends enthralled by the mechanism may turn against you. And that’s okay. You don’t hold it against them because you know they are enthralled to the mechanism. You are blessed because you know that you are too. (See number 1.) And because you are aware of your own tendency to scapegoat, you can forgive others for theirs.

1. Love and forgive your neighbor as you love and forgive yourself

Love is fundamental to being more peaceful. But let’s face it, love is hard. It’s especially hard to love myself. I beat myself up for not being good enough, smart enough, popular enough, or peaceful enough. I gave up New Year’s resolutions years ago because it only confirmed the fact that I’m a total failure. And this resolution to be more peaceful? Not a chance. But Jesus and the Hebrew priest of Leviticus tell us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. I’m aware that I’m going to fail at love and so are my neighbors. And that’s okay. Failure is part of being human. So be gentle on yourself and on your neighbors. When we fail, when we get caught up in the violent scapegoat mechanism, we don’t have to beat ourselves up. Rather, we can receive those blessed words from Jesus, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” We can receive God’s forgiveness and offer that forgiveness to others.

I’m going to fail at love and so are my neighbors. And that’s okay. Failure is part of being human. So be gentle on yourself and on your neighbors. When we fail, when we get caught up in the violent scapegoat mechanism, we don’t have to beat ourselves up. Rather, we can receive those blessed words from Jesus, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” We can receive God’s forgiveness and offer that forgiveness to others. In Jesus we find that forgiveness and justice, not violence, are the way to peace.

Those are my top 5 ways to be more peaceful in the New Year. Let me know what you would add. Peace!

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  1. John Morley
    John Morley says:

    Well written stuff as usual Adam God Bless. The peaceful way is the only way and these last few weeks and days seem to show that more than ever.

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  2. Bob
    Bob says:

    One thing I do, or attempt to do, is rehearse in my mind how to respond to the impulse to anger. IOW, attempt to train myself not to get angry at whatever provocation there is.

    I truly dislike getting cut off in traffic, but I realize that I will do the same thing. I’m invariably quite easy on myself; not nearly so on others. I know that when I’ve driven poorly, I’m distracted, I’m too focused on something other than driving, etc. I didn’t mean to be a jerk behind the wheel.

    My exercise, when driving, is to remind myself to be attentive, remember how I’ve responded in the past, and use various moments in the journey to ask “what if I got cut off right now? and remember that others are as apt to be distracted as I am.

    And cut them some slack, as I would like to be cut some. One additional side benefit is slightly improved driving.

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