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[vc_row el_class=”olive-branch-bg-r”][vc_column][vc_column_text]When I interned as a hospital chaplain, I met with a woman who was nearing the end of her long life. She was in her 90s. After meeting a few times, we developed a good rapport. She was friendly and kind. But like a lot of grandparents her age, she had regrets.<\/p>\n
Her regret was that she had a grandchild who rejected the Christian faith. She couldn\u2019t understand why her grandchild wouldn\u2019t share in the faith that was so important to her. There was pain in her voice. It was a pain that wasn\u2019t so much based on judgment against her granddaughter, but rather based on her inability to share what really mattered to her with her grandchild.<\/p>\n
Which led me to wonder why so many young people are leaving the church.<\/p>\n
[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”16px”][vc_single_image image=”20237″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center”][vc_empty_space height=”16px”][vc_column_text]Unfortunately, some in the boomer generation find it easy to blame or demean Millennials and Generation Z for not attending church. Generation X (my generation) is lazy. Millennials only care about themselves. Generation Z is already addicted to iPads and tablets.<\/p>\n
This blaming of Millennials was seen recently from Joe Biden. Despite the fact that Millennials and Generation Z have had to deal with the constant threat of gun violence at schools, the never ending wars, and the increasing climate crisis, Biden said<\/a> earlier this year that, \u201cThe younger generation now tells me how tough things are. Give me a break. No, no, I have no empathy for it.\u201d<\/p>\n As a Gen X pastor who cares about Boomers, Millennials, and Gen Z, I can tell you exactly why Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z are leaving the church. It\u2019s not because those generations don\u2019t have faith. It\u2019s not because we are selfish and individualistic. It\u2019s not because we are constantly on social media.<\/p>\n It\u2019s because we don\u2019t feel like we belong. When Boomers are calling all the shots at churches and younger generations hear judgmental comments of contempt like, \u201cI have no empathy for it\u201d who can blame us for leaving? Those kinds of comments make us feel like we don\u2019t belong.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_section el_class=”post-quote”][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1566306295282{background-image: url(https:\/\/ravenfoundation.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/0c0caab3a0b06f49d1f4e4069f7acecc-e1562958862845.jpg?id=19638) !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text css_animation=”none” el_class=”quote”]<\/p>\n Millennials know that if God exists, then God is not like the judgmental, discriminatory, anti-science caricature many churches make God out to be.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n [\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][\/vc_section][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space height=”16px”][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n I don\u2019t want to come off as being judgmental against boomers for being judgmental. That would just perpetuate the cycle of judgment. As the pastor of a church with a lot of boomers, I know that generation to be full of kind, generous, and compassionate people.<\/p>\n But my anecdotal experience doesn\u2019t change the fact that churches are seen as places of judgment. Churches are seen as the only place in America where you can freely discriminate against LGBTQ folks. Often, they are seen as anti-science, climate change deniers. They are seen as arrogantly thinking that they, and only they, hold the truth about God.<\/p>\n Millennials know that if God exists, then God is not like the judgmental, discriminatory, anti-science caricature many churches make God out to be.<\/p>\n So Millennials are leaving the church in droves. And they are right to do so.<\/p>\n The problem is not with younger generations. The problem is with the church.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n [\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”16px”][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_empty_space height=”24px”][vc_single_image image=”20238″ img_size=”large”][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_column_text]In fact, Jesus tells a story about this very dynamic. His fictional account is about a Pharisee and a tax collector. A Pharisee was a well-respected religious teacher during this time. There were many types of Pharisees. One type was the school of Shammai and another was the school of Hillel. Shammai emphasized strict and rigorous obedience to the Law, while Hillel emphasized a much more open approach.<\/p>\n For example, it was Hillel who claimed<\/a> that the Law was summed up in this phrase, \u201cThat which is despicable to you, do not do to your fellow, this is the whole Torah, and the rest is commentary, go and learn it.\u201d Jesus was clearly influenced by Hillel when he inverted that phrase by teaching, \u201cDo to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the law and the prophets.\u201d Jesus saw himself as a Pharisee<\/a> in the tradition of Hillel.<\/p>\nWhy You Should Leave Church<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Jesus and the Pharisees<\/strong><\/h3>\n